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Pros and Cons of Becoming an Stay-At-Home Dad

December 25, 2009 by APW

at-home dad carrying child

I know most of the people who read this blog are involved fathers … BUT, maybe there are a few dads out there struggling with the decision of whether they should jump into the role of at-home dad … or maybe the role was forced upon them.

Like most job or career decisions, you might sit down and create a chart weighing your options carefully — the pros and cons, advantages and disadvantages, etc. The Pros and Cons of Being a Stay-At-Home-Dad: Should I Stay or Should I Go by I.J. Schecter on the Pregnancy Today website, is an article I was able to relate to and would recommend to dads considering taking on this rewarding role. Schecter’s list is below:

PROS

  • You’re your own boss
  • You’ll witness the big moments
  • You’ll ease the pressure on your other half
  • You’ll become your child’s best friend
  • Guilt-free guy time on nights and weekends

CONS

  • Shrinking vocabulary syndrome
  • There’s no formal reward-and-recognition program like “good job dad!”
  • Personal time? What personal time?
  • Separation anxiety
  • You’re going to be tired

We can certainly add to this list to make it even more comprehensive and give parents the information they need to make an informed decision. I would add that another pro is the opportunity to meet and connect with other parents who share sound advice and best practices to support and help you along the way. These are people I probably would never have become friends with, but as a result, I am a better person and parent because of them. I would add a con of the loneliness you can feel sometimes (a sense of isolation), especially being trapped inside on a cold day or when your child is sick.

Dads – what Pros and/or Cons would you add to this list?

Photo: © micromonkey / Adobe Stock.

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