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Pros and Cons of Becoming an At-Home-Dad

December 25, 2009 by Lance Somerfeld

I know most of the people who read this blog are involved fathers…BUT, maybe there are a few dads out there struggling with the decision of whether they should jump into the role of an an at-home-dad…or the role was forced upon them.

Like most job or career decisions, you might sit down and create a t-chart weighing your options carefully- the pros and cons, advantages and disadvantages, etc. The Pros and Cons of Being a Stay-At-Dome-Dad: Should I Stay or Should I Go by I.J. Schecter on the Pregnancy Today website, is an article I was able to relate to & would recommend it to dads considering taking on this rewarding role. Schecter’s list is below:

PROS

  • You’re your own boss
  • You’ll witness the big moments
  • You’ll ease the pressure on your other half
  • You’ll become your child’s best friend
  • Guilt-free guy time on nights and weekends

CONS

  • Shrinking vocabulary syndrome
  • There’s no formal reward-and-recognition program like “good job dad!”
  • Personal time? What personal time?
  • Separation anxiety
  • You’re going to be tired

We can certainly add to this list to make it even more comprehensive & give parents the information they need to make an informed decision. I would add that another pro is the opportunity to meet and connect with other parents who share sound advice and best practices to support and help you along the way. These are people I probably would never have become friends with, but as a result, I am a better person and parent because of them. I would add a con of the loneliness you can feel sometimes (sense of isolation), especially being trapped inside on a cold day or when your child is sick.

Dads – what Pros and/or Cons would you add to this list?

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About Lance Somerfeld

Lance Somerfeld, co-founder of City Dads Group, lives with his wife and two children in New York City. He frequently contributes to the conversation about modern fatherhood, work-life balance, shifting gender roles, and brand’s marketing to dads. He has appeared on local and national television, including CNN, Today and Katie. He has been quoted by The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, USA Today, GQ, Parenting and The Atlantic.

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