If someone had the proven answer to that question, they would be probably be able to print a mint! For me, just getting grounded with my patience level now that I am the proud dad of a 2 1/2 year old is my latest struggle. When I became a parent, I was not given enough tools to significantly increase my patience level. Sure, I think it’s somewhat improved from before parenting…but, having a toddler test you on the same thing a dozen times in a row and keeping your cool – come on!
Anyhow, back to the question of “how do men succeed as fathers” comes front and center with the latest Forbes Magazine article, Do Men Need to Act Like Women to Succeed as Fathers? by Lisa Duggan, an inspiring mom, publisher of The MotherHood Magazine, and good friend of the NYC Dads Group. The article responds to the recent “push back against negative stereotypes of men—chiefly led by fathers—especially the stereotype about being bad dads.”
Duggan boldly states, “Increasingly, fathers are rejecting classification as the “second parent” and insist on playing a substantive role in their children’s lives. They are taking ownership of childcare responsibilities long considered the sole domain of women, including everything from attending doctor’s visits to choosing summer camp.” Hat tip for Lisa for writing about a meaningful & relevant topic that we try so hard within our community of dads to demonstrate on a daily basis.
To give my two cents and agree with Duggan here, Do men need to act like women to succeed as fathers? NO WAY! Nope, we just need to keep caring deeply about our children, find those access points to keep tuned in to what their interests are, and make a real concerted effort to be actively involved in their lives!
I strongly recommend reading Duggan’s insightful article and weighing in with your thoughts. Oh, and if you don’t already read her powerful MotherHood Blog, stay tuned, she is currently developing a new magazine for 21st century parents!
Disclosure: Many thanks to Lisa for taking such a strong interest in our NYC Dads Group community and including us in your featured article. We are most grateful!
I agree . We don’t need to be like women nor we need to completely overtake their work. We need to complement them.