What should a father do if his wife wants to return to her job after she gives birth? Support her all he can and figure out how to make the marital partnership work for each of you, says author Lauren Smith Brody. Brody gives advice on how to achieve those goals on the latest edition of The Modern Dads Podcast where she discusses her latest book, The Fifth Trimester: The Working Mom’s Guide to Style, Sanity, & Big Success After Baby. Based on interviews and input from more than 700 moms who work in a wide variety of occupations, Brody's book is not all opinion and anecdote as she … [Read more...]
I admit it: I have “Toddler Brain." It started last week when the boys and I headed out to a playdate. We walked inside, traded our sandals for stocking feet, and just as I reached in my back pocket, it hit me. Guess who forgot his wallet at home? It seems I’d lose my head if it wasn’t attached these days. I could mentally see my wallet sitting right on my nightstand, next to a couple receipts and the handkerchief I always carry in the opposite pocket. Right where it didn’t belong. Grrr. I had put on clean cargo shorts, as good dads do, after getting up that morning and, in the rush … [Read more...]
We have heard before about there being two different Americas. The tale is true for fathers in the United States.
The 2016 State of America’s Fathers report found that while dads, in general, are more active in their children's lives than ever, increasing the time they spend with their children and sharing child care responsibilities with women at all-time high levels, the disparity between the classes is still great. High-income fathers receive kudos while dads of lesser means are “often either valued or stigmatized simply by their ability … [Read more...]
Does anybody else suck at adulting? You know what I mean. The doing of the stuff. Engaging in basic Life Maintenance. Paying the bills on time. Thinking ahead about what my family will have for dinner will be tomorrow. Signing field trip forms on time. Filing things before a deadline. Keeping track of when the oil was last changed in the car. Reminding other people to do things. Reminding myself to do things. Can I engage in active adulting when I have to? Yes. Yes I can. But it's a struggle. I've never NOT paid a late fee for my car registration (which ultimately ends up being more … [Read more...]
There they go. My children. Off to face the world. Off to make their way without me along to guide them. OK, it’s just school. They’ll be fine. In fact, they’ll thrive. I know this from experience. Our kids – most kids – are far more resilient than we think. They strike a brilliant balance between resilience and flexibility. They bend into and sway with the winds of fortune, testing the limits of their self-sufficiency. The best we can do as parents is to furnish them with the emotional and intellectual tools they need to harness the future as well as they can and let them grow as … [Read more...]