My mind this week is floating in two places – the father I want to be & the teacher I am retraining to be = a clouded mind. A buddy shot me a note earlier today to meet for lunch with our kids and I had to respond that I “couldn’t do it today because I was at work.” Weird!
Anyhow, there is no manual that can offer a solution to the pain I experience when I drop my little guy off at daycare and he gets hysterical shouting “da-da, da-da, da-da.” It is no fun to leave your child like that in the morning as I rush off to teach at school. I constantly remind my son that I always come back for him, but it is still hard on both of us – definitely harder on me. On the flip side, when I pick him up and see that excitement in his face to see me is a cherry after a day at the office.
I was reading my favorite local parenting magazine (New York Family) the other day and did appreciate the relevant article geared towards parents returning to work after having a child – even if the story was intended for new moms – Back After Baby: Returning to Work After Maternity Leave? by Alessandra Hickson.
The main points:
– Feeling Guilty is normal…glad it’s not just me
– Allow time to transition into your childcare routine…we spent three whole weeks which was very helpful on our whole family
– Make a plan that works for you
– Have a back-up plan
– Accept Help
Please tell me it gets easier…