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Parents Leaving on A Trip – How Do You Prepare Your Little One?

August 12, 2011 by Lance Somerfeld

My wife & I met on vacation over ten years ago.  Naturally, we enjoy taking vacations together as do most people.  We have been making sure that we take one nice vacation every year ever since we met.  Now, with a little one, things are slightly different.  Consequently, We take two summer vacations – one vacation together as a family (3 of us) & one vacation without our three-year old son (our couples vacation).

The first two years, I didn’t mind leaving the little guy behind with our parents for a week because he wasn’t as expressive as he is now.  It almost felt like he didn’t really know or understand that we were away.  Fortunately, our son spends a lot of time with his grandparents during the year so they know what he likes and do a wonderful Job of caring for him.

The quandary: When is the right time to tell your toddler that you are going away on a trip WITHOUT them?  Of course, I wouldn’t put it in those words to him – I would make a big deal about him going to Nana/Grandma “camp” for a few days and describe all of the fun things that they have lined up for him – beach, pool, Bounce House, children’s museum, etc.

I am treading on uncharted territory here because I am rarely separated from my little guy for more than a day – now, we are skipping town for six days.  Do you tell them way in advance?  Is the morning of our trip the right time – that feels unfair, but I also don;t want him to have anxiety about it.  Maybe he won’t have anxiety if we phrase it properly.  I am “green” on this topic & Would appreciate any suggestions or advice?

As an aside: Don’t get me wrong – internal thinking (I am doing backflips in my head) with all of the excitement about the prospect of going away on an awesome vacation with my lovely bride!  Hopefully, I am overanalyzing things and our son will be even more excited about his break from us! Wishful thinking?

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Filed Under: NYC, travel Tagged With: travel with kids

About Lance Somerfeld

Lance Somerfeld, co-founder of City Dads Group, lives with his wife and two children in New York City. He frequently contributes to the conversation about modern fatherhood, work-life balance, shifting gender roles, and brand’s marketing to dads. He has appeared on local and national television, including CNN, Today and Katie. He has been quoted by The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, USA Today, GQ, Parenting and The Atlantic.

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  1. Josh says

    August 12, 2011 at 6:57 pm

    Yeah, tell him way in advance, so he gets used to the idea. Tell him about his vacation with grandma and maybe even have them skype about it. Make a big deal about it, and let him know that Mommy and Daddy will be there when he gets back. If he’s cool from the start, no problem. If he’s not it gives him time to warm up to it. As long as your parents are fun, then you wont even have to make a big deal about it the second time

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  2. Robert Jeremiah says

    August 14, 2011 at 2:07 am

    We did the opposite of Josh and told the kids one day in advance. My wife travels a ton for work, and we usually wait until the day before a trip to simply say “mommy has to go on a trip.” It is usually pretty well received. When we both left for five we also waited until the day before. It worked well. I am sure you will choose what seems right, go with your gut.

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  3. Josh says

    August 15, 2011 at 12:08 am

    Robert’s idea is really good too and he’s right that you need to go with your gut about what he needs. It’s really about how much prep your kid needs for anything new. When you sent him to school, did you tell him in advance, or did you spring it on him? With my oldest or youngest they don’t need a lot of prep for stuff, but as you well know #2 is a crazy lady, and her we need to prep. Either way, as long as he has a great time, its going to be a non-issue.

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  4. NYC Dads Group says

    August 15, 2011 at 10:09 am

    We went with Robert’s approach. It seemed to work well. Keep you posted…

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  5. Citypath says

    August 17, 2011 at 1:53 pm

    I don’t think I can ever go on a trip =0

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