A guest blog entry from active NYC Dads Group member, Watson K.
Hey there, Watson Kawecki here, proud father of my 26-month old Owen
and our next one(!) due in mid-March. I work freelance, so I am with my son
around half of the time. Joining this group two years ago has been great
for me and for my boy, providing social time, great meetup activities and
(occasionally) time with other dads on our own. Good stuff!
I am also glad that this group also gives me the chance to meet “experts”,
and to have deeper discussions about fatherhood, too. I recently went to
Donald Unger’s talk covering material from his book, “Men CAN!”, in
Manhattan. This was a really nice event. We met in a NYC playroom and had
our usual experience–nice dads and their kids, together in a male-centered
environment, in a relaxed atmosphere. There were both familiar faces and
first-time dads there.
Once our kids settled in, Don began his talk–very bravely, I might add,
since we learned quickly that he had not ever tried to discuss the subject
with dads while the kids were playing in the same room. Our kids were very
well-behaved though, and we spent a good hour or so discussing fatherhood
from the male perspective.
Don’s little girl is now a teenager, so his experience was more that of a
pioneer in an era where active dads were less common. He also gave me some
good glimpses into my future when my kids are older, raising questions I
hadn’t even begun to consider yet as I keep up with my son’s progress. Don
also wanted to hear about our perspectives on fatherhood today, and we had a
lively discussion about how we interact with the “typically female”
environment, how strangers perceive us, and anything else we dads could
think of to discuss.
Thanks again to those who made this event possible, and thanks to Don for
sharing his time and his expertise with us and our kids. If he ever is
lecturing, I recommend it and his book too. See you next time!