The NYC Dads Group is a unique and diverse group full of caring, involved, and active fathers. I thought it would be interesting for some of the men in the group to periodically share their experiences on caregiving and parenting to the general public via this blog. As Jeremy Adam Smith mentions in The Daddy Shift, “society needs to hear more stories of reverse traditional families and caregiving fathers.” This is a “spotlight” on John S. (pictured above with his son Loy), one of our dynamic at-home-dad members. The format of this at-home-dad interview is a Q&A between the two of us.
How did you come into the role of being an at home dad?
My wife and I decided long before Loy was on the way that I would be the one to stay home. I work from home for the most part as a freelance photographer, so my flexible is definitely more conducive.
Also, something that I’m sure comes into play with other couples making this decision, my wife’s job as a school teacher includes insurance benefits which made it an obvious choice given that I’m self employed.
What is the best part of being an at home dad?
How has being a part of a dads group helped support you in your role?
It has been great for me because I have been able to get out and interact with other adults and have real conversations. Also all the activities that have been organized force me to get out of the house, especially during the colder months when it can be so easy just to stay in and hibernate
When you tell your friends about your situation of being an at home dad, how do they normally react?
At first I got a few strange looks, but I think most of my friends and family know that I’m never going to do what is expected just because its expected. I think most of them knowing that I work from home, realize that its a logical step for me to be home with Loy.
I have seen some of your work and you are a talented photographer. Have you been able to keep up with your passion for photography? Have you been able to incorporate your skill set in photography with being the primary caregiver?