Kids operate from an unrelatable place, often with no logical motivation or rationale for their behavior. Kind of like your boss. Or your clients. Or your annoying coworker, Karen.
While nothing you bring from work will help you at home, as a man with a college degree and almost two decades of experience in the professional world, I believe there are many parenting techniques that can help you at work. I mean, if you can survive dealing with your toddler, you can deal with anyone. So why aren’t there more business tips based on parenting?
Here are five parenting techniques that can make you a better employee:*
1. Focus Up
It’s hard to get children to listen, particularly at the dinner table. Or when it’s time to get dressed. Or when it’s time to clean up. Basically, they won’t listen when there is any urgency on your part at all. The same thing can happen at work. You need something done so you can get out of there and everyone is slagging. Maybe it’s Friday afternoon and weekend-itis is setting in, or maybe they had a big lunch and can’t get motivated. How do you get them in gear? The same way I do at home: yell REALLY loudly and threaten their livelihoods. Once everyone has stopped crying, give them all hugs and promise them some candy, but only after they finish their work. BOOM! PROMOTION IMMINENT.
2. Blind Them With Science
Sometimes you need a few minutes to yourself to get something done or just to decompress. At home, when there’s an attention-hungry kid constantly pawing at you, it can be a challenge. This is where your mastery of the best parenting techniques is critical. I’ve learned to distract my son with a TV show or an app on my tablet or — look, a squirrel! Turns out it’s just as effective at work. When you’re on deadline and that annoying co-worker won’t stop popping his head into your cube, shoot him a Buzzfeed quiz and let him find out what kind of sandwich he is. Or send the annoying Karen back to her desk to check out something on YouTube. And then put some headphones on and finish your work.
3. Handle Unreasonable Demands
At least when your toddler makes unreasonable demands, it’s because he doesn’t understand how the world works. He doesn’t know why you can’t produce a Transformer out of thin air; he just wants one like his friend at school! Thankfully, even the most incompetent bosses and co-workers have a rudimentary grasp of physics and the time-space continuum. Yet, they too make ridiculous demands. How to combat this? You have two parenting techniques at your disposal. First, ignore them. Even better than that? Repeat their request back to them in a baby voice until they realize how unreasonable they’re being. Or until you get fired. Either way: PROBLEM SOLVED!
When dealing with the bottomless pit of need that is a young child, it’s natural to try to push everything you can off to the nearest available adult, if only to get a break. But if your spouse sees through the ruse? You’re fired. It’s the same at work. If you need to get some work off your plate so you can make happy hour with your old college roommate, you’ve got to dump some work on someone else without rocking the boat. How? Make them think it’s their idea. Now, you probably can’t trick most co-workers into thinking it’s a game (“I’ll time you!”), but you can make it valuable to them. Present it as a learning experience (“You’ve got to know HTML; give it a shot!”). Failing that, promise to return the favor. That way when your boss suspects you’re off-loading work, your colleague won’t rat you out. Not if he expects payback. Bribery: fun for all ages!
5. Stay Calm
Both children and bosses have a tendency to occasionally fly off the handle. How you respond goes a long way toward forging a successful long-term relationship. Yell back? Your kid will fear you and your boss will go Donald Trump on you. Cower and you lose their respect. It’s a tough one, but after weathering countless barrages from my son, I’ve found the solution: don’t react at all, not even a little bit. Just let them finish. Eventually, your boss, like your kid, will either tire himself out or realize he’s become a spectacle. When he’s done? Deliver the coup de grace: your total agreement. Don’t capitulate, just acknowledge his concerns. This will either appease or confuse him. Either way, he’ll be stymied, and probably need a nap. WIN!
There you have it: proof that herding children can offer you something besides headaches and alcoholism. To paraphrase Fight Club’s Tyler Durden: the things you teach, end up teaching you. A word of warning: not every trick you use on your toddler will translate at work. Do NOT try to give your boss a time-out.
And remember, whether you’re at work or at home, it’s mostly about surviving until happy hour.
*Please Note: These are all tactics** I’ve used on my son.
**Please Note: None of these tactics have actually worked on my son.
A version of Parenting Techniques first appeared on Dad and Buried.