I had a conversation with a friend recently about the value of learning about what interests our kids. "If you don't know what they're interested in, then you’re not in a position to effectively offer them great counsel," he said to me. "You can't offer advice or insight in areas that you have zero knowledge in. Therefore, even if it's something you don't understand, it makes sense to at least explore the subject matter so that you can be a resource to your kids. At a minimum, you gain clarity on where you need to seek outside help.” This statement really made me think. Why do we, as dads, … [Read more...]
EDITOR'S NOTE: City Dads Group is working with longtime partner Dove Men+Care to create “how to” videos for the grooming products company’s “Dads Care” campaign. We will be featuring the videos and scripts our members appear in. This one features contributor Mike Dorsey and his children, Maxwell and Morgan, talking about the differences between wants and needs.To start this process, you should have your kids define "needs" and "wants" in their own words. When you allow your children to do this, it helps them understand the concept in their own terms. For … [Read more...]
The following is an edited transcript, used by permission, of blog contributor Mike Dorsey's most recent episode of his podcast "Black Fathers, NOW!" He prefaced his podcast by saying it was "a quick message to encourage brothers NOT to allow 'Mental Terrorism' to set in" in light of George Floyd's death by police. He continued, "Carter G. Woodson said it best, 'When you control a man's thinking, you don't have to worry about his actions.' Let's NOT let systemic white supremacy, bias and hate terrorize our minds. Use it as fuel to MAKE CHANGE!"
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When you have multiple children, you quickly realize parenting siblings individually to a collective audience is one of the most challenging issues you face. Each child is different and requires different types of attention, different resources and different parenting styles for maximum effectiveness. Even when you give it your best to be fair and equitable in parenting these different individuals, you realize that at times you simply come up short. How often do your kids hit you with, “You let the other one do it!” or the classic, “That's not fair!”? If you're like me, these … [Read more...]
Mike Dorsey is on a mission. He wants to change the tired narrative in our country about black fathers, such as them being absentee dads or not engaged when they are around. Dorsey, known as "Mike D" by many, has taken a multi-prong approach to redefining and uplifting the image of African American dads. He is an author, business entrepreneur, community organizer, speaker and podcaster. Dorsey discusses his motivation to create a community for active and engaged black fathers and the impact of his work within and outside that community on the latest episode of the Modern Dads … [Read more...]