Did your family make a New Year’s resolution this month? Probably not, since we tend to think of resolutions as individual endeavors. But that may be the reason so many resolutions fail, as Charles Duhigg explains in his bestselling The Power of Habit. To change a bad family habit or reinforce a good one, we first need to know how habits operate. Duhigg writes “habits emerge because the brain is constantly looking for ways to save effort ... without habit loops, our brains would shut down, overwhelmed by the minutiae of daily life.” In fact, nearly half the actions we perform each day … [Read more...]
We walked through the store at the Bronx Zoo and sat my son’s pacifier on the shelf. Gripping his new stuffed gorilla tightly and sporting a quivering lower lip, he waved goodbye to the thing that had comforted him on so many nights and so many upsetting moments.
With a sad heart, I too turned my back on my old comforting friend and walked toward the cash register.
If you have a child using a pacifier, you know it can be the greatest tool in your parental utility belt. … [Read more...]