Being an active and involved parent is a full-time job even if you having a paying career outside of the home. However, that doesn't mean you should avoid having any "me" time or completely lose your own identity and individuality to parenting. Time for yourself is not being selfish; it's self-care. In the latest of our "City Dads Sessions" video series, our Los Angeles Dads Group co-organizer Trevor Mulligan asks several fathers who are full-time at-home dads for their tips and suggestions on how to not to get totally lost as an individual when raising children. Here is what they had to … [Read more...]
Catering to a needy baby or toddler can turn any parent into a sleep-deprived, stressed out zombie. Maybe that's all part of their evil plan? Husband-and-wife team Mike and Heather Spohr try to help moms and dads stave off an invasion of the heart, mind and body by going through the funny bone with their new book, The Toddler Survival Guide: Complete Protection from the Whiny Unfed. The couple discusses their book and their own parenting experiences when they join City Dads Group columnist Whit Honea for chat on the latest edition of The Modern Dads Podcast. The Toddler Survival … [Read more...]
An intriguing idea to finally bring paid parental leave to all working moms and dads in United States has come out of Washington, D.C., just not from the government. An opinion piece in the Jan. 25, 2018, issue of The Wall Street Journal floats the idea of a parent's future Social Security benefits being used to fund time off to care for a new child. If a parent uses any of his or her benefits for leave, the parent would be delayed in receiving Social Security payments upon retirement. The opinion piece's authors write that the delay in payments received later in life would be shorter … [Read more...]
The Dad 2.0 Summit — an annual conference where marketers, social media leaders and blogging parents connect to discuss the changing voice and perception of modern fatherhood — will hold its seventh annual event on Feb. 1 in New Orleans. Many of the fathers you know from the various City Dads Groups (plus others from the online parenting space) will be in attendance. I will be one of them. Why? There are more reasons than you can shake a GIF-stuffed Buzzfeed post at: bonding with like-minded individuals, discussions on public policy, career guidance and so many things found between. It … [Read more...]
Eight traffic lights separate the short driveway in front of our home and our grade school’s two separate parent drop-off zones. Pushing back from the gate by 7:46 a.m. affords us the time to just miss a few of them. We’ve got to be reversing out of the driveway by 7:46 each morning with lunches, flutes and books in tow, or else. Any later, even just one minute later, and a just missed traffic light flipping from green to yellow to red might result in my oldest child being late for school, and this parent having to walk her in, hand her over, and walk back to the car alone with a pink tardy … [Read more...]
Screen time -- how much is too much for children when everywhere you go -- including the classroom -- you find a television, computer, gaming system, tablet or smartphones?
NPR Digital Education Correspondent Anya Kamenetz thinks she has the answer for you beleaguered fathers and mothers.
The award-winning journalist and author appears on the latest edition of the Modern Dads Podcast to offer practical advice and research findings from her new book, The Art of Screen Time: How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media & Real Life.
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Around the time children reach middle school (or certainly by high school), they often encounter an academic subject they do not like. Whether it’s English, history, science or math, they will find the class boring, meaningless or irrelevant to their lives — no matter how much they love learning in general. Then parents have to confront the inevitable question: “Why do we need to learn this?” In my experience, there are several layers to answering this question. The surface, knee-jerk, I’m-very-busy response involves a stream of words like “because the school requires it / that’s the way it … [Read more...]
The ideas of peace, love, hard work and understanding are core elements of the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. And on this day, when we recognize not only the man but also the impact he had on us as a country, I think it is important to reflect on some of his words. Here are five quotes that have stuck out to me for various reasons. “Whatever your life’s work is, do it well. A man should do his job so well that the living, the dead and the unborn could do it no better.” There’s something to be said for having pride in your work, but also to recognize your talents. But that phrase … [Read more...]
Darren W. Carter received his birthday wish and then some, and so did some children in need. Carter, an organizer with our Cleveland Dads Group, asked friends and followers on Facebook in December to donate a backpack or duffel bag filled with clothes, toiletries or personal supplies to him in lieu of presents last month. His goal: collect 48 bags with gear to donate to a foster care organization to mark his 48th birthday. Here's why: Carter and his wife, Theresa, have been working with the local chapter of the national nonprofit Specialized Alternatives for Families and Youth of … [Read more...]
The hill was steep enough that I had to stop, my lungs heavy and legs slightly burning. I pretended to fiddle with my camera and stared into the valley below. The boys waited further ahead, one closer than the other, with the dog loudly panting. The walk was my idea. We had started for their favorite oak tree, one of several in the area that have sprouted rope swings from their massive branches, but found it occupied by three teens and an Instagram account. They were listening to John Denver, sprawled upon a blanket beneath leaf and cloud, with the feet of their friends floating into frame … [Read more...]