When my dad was 1 year old, his father Eddy abandoned his mother and three kids (he was the youngest). I'm not sure why he left. He clearly wasn't happy. I asked my grandmother about it years later, and she said she was not an easy person to live with. That may be, but leaving your kids -- I just can't fathom it. I can understand the urge to leave, and I can imagine leaving, but I can't imagine actually leaving. Years later, Eddy made contact with my dad, trying to repair the relationship. My dad refused to see him. He felt that wound deeply. I had a pretty good relationship with my … [Read more...]
I like playing the random “Feeling Lucky” music mixes off my Google Cloud when I'm home alone with my 3-year-old. She loves pretending to sing and dances hard to the music.
A classic rock mix of CSN, Dire Straits, Supertramp and a little Fleetwood Mac come on today. I hadn't listened to most of those song in years and it took me back. My daughter perked up as I sang to her, giggling and getting playful. I turned her upside down for a huge belly laugh and, as I was bringing her back up, I looked at her laughing, … [Read more...]
A recent cold snap reminded me of a fact I simply cannot deny: my son is, and has long been, a loser. This simple teenage truth became comically clear about this time last year and remains true to this day. The mystery also remains, “Why can’t my son keep track of his things?” The most recent round of this longtime loser phenomenon started a year ago with the anticipation of ski season. I bought my son his season pass and a handsome new ski jacket, plaid like the snowboarders wear, a good brand, on sale. When the weather turned cold a few days later, it made sense for him to wear the … [Read more...]
If you couldn't join us at the “Why Fathers Matter: Creating Successful Parenting Partnerships” parenting conference in New York City this past Sunday, you can now watch and hear everything videos of each presentation are online (see list below for links). City Dads Group helped organize the third annual parenting conference hosted by the 92nd Street Y, a longtime partner of the NYC Dads Group . Approximately 100 people attended, including several members of our Boston and NYC Dads Groups. City Dads Group co-founder Lance Somerfeld served as an emcee while other co-founder Matt … [Read more...]
Before I became a stay-at-home spouse nearly three years ago, I did not think much of the men or women who chose that path. I didn't look down on them; I was simply not impressed. Their tales of frustration and loneliness fell on my deaf ears. It reminded me of stories regarding pregnancy. It was an issue, as a man, I would never have to deal with. Now, I do. The most surprising thing to me is how similar the experience is for at-home parents, regardless of gender. The working spouse comes home, asking why the house was not clean, berating the at-home parent for spending money he or she … [Read more...]