Eight traffic lights separate the short driveway in front of our home and our grade school’s two separate parent drop-off zones. Pushing back from the gate by 7:46 a.m. affords us the time to just miss a few of them. We’ve got to be reversing out of the driveway by 7:46 each morning with lunches, flutes and books in tow, or else. Any later, even just one minute later, and a just missed traffic light flipping from green to yellow to red might result in my oldest child being late for school, and this parent having to walk her in, hand her over, and walk back to the car alone with a pink tardy … [Read more...]
I probably say it a thousand times a day and, honestly, it feels good to say it. I say, "No." "Daddy, can I have a popsicle for lunch?" my daughter says. "No. A popsicle is not lunch. Eat your lunch and then we can talk popsicles," I say. "Daddy, can I play on the iPad?" my son asks. "No. You already had your screen time today. Did you pick up your room?" I answer. Shopping with my children is when I say it most. If get near the toy aisle I know it will result in a barrage that will crescendo into a giant "NO!" that makes people's heads turn. This kind of trip has me grabbing … [Read more...]
My son's room is a perpetual mess. Hey, he's 7, I don't blame him. My office is a mess, too. And I'm 7.29 times older than he is! But last week, when I could no longer find the covers on his bed because of the layers of stuff strewn across it, I felt enough was enough. (My office is almost at that point, but not quite.) I resolved that we had to clean it up. So we spent his pre-bedtime activities (usually spent reading) by clearing his bed, putting toys away, throwing away broken toys, shoving Legos into boxes. We are in frenzied activity mode .. well, I was. I was pulling everything off … [Read more...]
"Dad," my son said as he looked at me from across the living room while I performed the daily ritual of going through his backpack after school. "I'm a little bit upset with you, Dad. Just a little." It was a very calculated tone to his voice. Determined. He'd contemplated things and ruled that whatever happened it was decidedly my responsibility. "Oh, really?" I replied. "You forgot to send my library book to school and it was book day." Never mind that just that morning we'd had a conversation before school about whether he wanted to put the book in his bag -- just in … [Read more...]
We all want to treat our children well, but how can we avoid going too far and creating a spoiled brat? Ron Lieber, a New York Times personal finance columnist and author of the recently released book The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous, and Smart About Money, offers parents the advice they need on this topic while offering tips on setting limits on allowance and birthday presents on our latest Modern Dads Podcast. Lieber also provides some suggestions on saving for college.
* Listen to The Modern Dads Podcast with Ron … [Read more...]