Among the photographs from my 2003 deployment to Iraq is one that sticks out. There’s a woman in uniform, not unlike every other picture I have of persons I served with there. But then there’s this guy. He has no BDU t-shirt or DCU pants; he’s in a white cotton button up with rolled sleeves and blue jeans. He’s sitting on a dusty cot next to our tent, his arms out, his lips pursed mid-sentence, and he’s smiling. He’s holding a shawarma wrapped in plastic he’s brought from his home to give us a break from the MREs we shared at lunch every day under our camouflage netting-covered “porch." His … [Read more...]
Editor's Note: The author originally wrote this post for his blog, Double Trouble Daddy, to mark the Oct. 15 observance of national Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.
If you saw me pushing a shopping cart or chasing a quick-footed toddler around a neighborhood playground you would probably say to yourself: “There goes a happy Dad of twins.”What you probably wouldn’t guess by watching me pulling the double-trouble wagon down the street toward the park is that I’m actually the father of five. No -- although they consider themselves part of the … [Read more...]
I attended my brother’s funeral recently. Cancer took him, just as it’s taken other members of my family and just like it tried to take me. While I stood there, trying to comfort my family members and reflecting upon my own memories, I couldn't help but reflect on all that cancer has taken from us – some of the strongest and most vital men and fathers I’ve ever known (right along with our mothers, sisters and children). It’s easy to say that we’ll take a stand right now – to end cancer, and I do believe it’s important to aggressively pursue better diagnostics, treatments and life-long … [Read more...]
Ham's brutally honest and revealing storytelling in Laughter, Tears, and Braids that makes this book so memorable.
One of the situations anyone who has a spouse or partner fears most is the loss of said spouse or partner. This situation is exasperated when there are children involved. This is what unfortunately happened to Bruce Ham.
In his harrowing, yet inspirational book, Laughter, Tears, and Braids: A Father's Journey Through Losing His Wife to Cancer, Ham shares just how challenging losing one's spouse at a young age can be. It … [Read more...]
One of the big lessons I’ve learned being a stay-at-home dad, which I am sure applies to all parents, is when a question is asked, use the shortest most informative answer possible. Especially when they are "life's big questions" -- life, death, sex, etc. I do find it very difficult at times to explain things to my kids. I tend to ramble on. I need to pause, think about my answer, so I can communicate it more effectively. I have found at times, I get tongue tied while explaining things to my sons. By the time I do get to the point, it is normally two or three minutes later and both my … [Read more...]