After many discussions, my wife and I decided I would become a stay-at-home dad (SAHD) when our child, The Understudy, turned 2 months old. At the time, I worked as a very important master of the burrito industry. It took a lot of time away from my new family and caused even more distractions when I was actually at home. At first, we were both skeptical about whether I would thrive in my new position. Would it be enough daily stimulation, interaction, conflict, etc. to get my juices flowing? And then, I left my job and it suddenly became very real. I initially looked at it like this: … [Read more...]
Babies / pregnancy
These articles are all about babies, pregnancy and baby/pregnancy related issues.
Prior to becoming a dad, I worried about the effect this new role would have on my relationships – the one with my wife and also with my friends. It didn’t take too long to learn that worrying is as much a part of new parenthood as sleepless nights, dirty diapers and repeatedly singing dull lullabies to soothe the crying baby. Some of these worries are just the result of our own “mental mushrooming” – it’s easy to blow things out of proportion since everything is so new. Then again, some fears are completely valid. Among them are the changes to one’s social life. As scary as it seemed in … [Read more...]
We can't think of a better way to celebrate April as National Poetry Month than by encouraging you to read the work of one of our own City Dads Group members. Ben Berman, a member of our Boston Dads Group, recently had published his second collection of verse. Figuring in the Figure (Able Muse Press) covers many topics in its 88 pages but the final section of the book covers fatherhood, including birthing and baby care classes, the arrival of his child, and those first precious months of life. His work, including the non-parenting poems, is filled with wry humor and familiar scenes like … [Read more...]
Like nails on a chalkboard, the sound of a crying baby is one of the most irksome known to humans. Lucky for you, the latest Modern Dads Podcast features the author of The Happiest Baby on the Block, Dr. Harvey Karp, who joins us to talk about his approach to calming crying babies and the crucial role dads play. We also discuss his groundbreaking SNOO Smart Sleeper crib that took him five years to create with MIT-trained engineers and designer Yves Behar. Karp, a pediatrician who practices in Los Angeles, is on the faculty of the University of Southern California School of Medicine and a … [Read more...]
"Dads in the delivery room" has arisen as a topic several times lately and, to my surprising, it has often been by people saying they are against it. Instead, they want a return to keeping dads out. Some dads I know have written about witnessing the birth of their child having dampened the spark of marital intimacy with their wife. One “expert” claims a man’s presence causes the mother more stress, prolonging labor and increasing the need for more medications or C-sections. Another even suggests that if a man is there he can’t really do anything and ends up feeling like a failure of a … [Read more...]