Editor’s Note: City Dads Group is proud to occasionally feature writing from members of The Handsome Father, a support community that helps connect, prepare and inspire gay fathers. In this piece, Jim Joseph writes about his desire to be a father. It’s always struck me funny how we tend to automatically give women credit for having maternal instinct. We grant it automatically; it’s just a part of our culture. With men, however, it’s been almost the complete opposite. We rarely credit men with paternal instinct, and it’s only after we’ve witnessed a super-human effort from the guy … [Read more...]
Editor's Note: Last week's guest column about teaching faith to children sparked a great response, in agreement and opposition. NYC Dads Group member Josh Kross offers his take on his parenting without God. I teach my children to be grateful for the world without needing to find responsibility for it. We have a tremendous gift in the universe, and it doesn’t matter why. The universe is not for us or by us. The universe just is, and that is all the explanation we need.
+ + +When he was 7, my oldest child walked out of his room and said, “You know those … [Read more...]
Editor's Note: Pairing religion and raising children is a feat many parents struggle with handling. But not guest columnist Bill Peebles. The light lingers over the lake, the boat bobs, tubing is done for today. My twin boys and their new friend from school are using towels as capes. The sun has kept us out later than we should be, and we have a 45-minute drive home. It's time. "Let's get going, boys, it's late and you'll have to get up in the morning," I shout down the hill from the deck we've been enjoying. They are done, sunburnt and weary. They head our way. "Watcha gotta do … [Read more...]
Editor's Note: City Dads Group is proud to occasionally feature writing from members of The Handsome Father, a support community that helps connect, prepare and inspire gay fathers. In this inspirational piece, Craig Peterson writes about his special-needs son, Andrew. From the day I met my adopted son Andrew at age 5, he liked to walk in front. He wanted to lead. Meanwhile, my two younger sons were in no hurry. They liked to walk hand-in-hand with their new father and didn’t want to share me with anyone – including their older brother. But Andrew didn’t mind. He’d be off on his own … [Read more...]
I cringe almost every time I hear someone describe the success of another as luck. From the local athlete who is drafted to play professional sports to the unheralded student who becomes a titan of industry, we so readily use the term “luck” when describing these achievements. As a father who has raised his son to believe, as boxer Muhammad Ali said, "impossible is nothing," I’m almost certain associating achievement with luck is one of the biggest obstacles parents create for themselves in trying to raise successful and independent children. Dispel the fairytale of luck as magic When … [Read more...]