I probably say it a thousand times a day and, honestly, it feels good to say it. I say, "No." "Daddy, can I have a popsicle for lunch?" my daughter says. "No. A popsicle is not lunch. Eat your lunch and then we can talk popsicles," I say. "Daddy, can I play on the iPad?" my son asks. "No. You already had your screen time today. Did you pick up your room?" I answer. Shopping with my children is when I say it most. If get near the toy aisle I know it will result in a barrage that will crescendo into a giant "NO!" that makes people's heads turn. This kind of trip has me grabbing … [Read more...]
Does hearing how others fail miserably really make us feel better about our faults or is this like a scene out of Jaws where we all compare our scars to see who has the biggest one of all?
+ + +Every day we fail at parenting in some way. It's not mommy brain. It's not because we are the doofus dad. Here's an awful truth we must all face: We are human and we are going to make a ton of mistakes. Parenting is hard. I recently sat in a meeting with other parents, mostly moms, quietly listening to them tear themselves down. They seemed to think that … [Read more...]
1. Giving Santa All The Credit My wife and I bust our collective asses providing for the children and making sure they have everything they need. When December 25 rolls around, I don't want the fat guy in red stealing our thunder. We still talk about Santa and I play the game every time they say something like "How does Santa deliver all those toys around the world in ONE NIGHT?" or "How does Santa fit down our tiny chimney?" Santa gives our kids toothbrushes and underwear, not the big-ass Lego set. Kids, this gift was made possible by a Danish factory and mommy's hard work. Remember … [Read more...]
1. Don't take offense You're a dude. Most of the playdate parents you will deal with, especially if you are a stay-at-home dad, will be moms. They may feel weird about dropping their kid off at your house for two hours when they hardly know you. Not to mention that you may or may not be a gigantic scary looking human being to their small child. It's all about comfort levels. 2. Keep a playdate neutral Choosing your house for the "first date" is going way too fast. Meet up somewhere public like a playground so if it doesn't go well there is no pressure to reciprocate. 3. Set a time … [Read more...]
I grew up in a house full of boys. We had black eyes and broken windows, a garage overflowing with every sports-related implement and a fridge needing constant stocking constantly as our bodies grew and our appetites remained ravenous. When I became a father for the first time I was somewhat relieved my first child was a boy. It was what I was used to and comfortable with and I knew my knowledge of what it takes to become a man would come in handy. When my first daughter arrived, I was more scared. Raising daughters was an unknown for me. I laugh now at the old me who thought it would be … [Read more...]