Whenever our family created sand art together, my wife and I made sure to think about the work of art both our children are, and to be grateful for them.
There are upsides as my daughters become women, parting with childhood and leaving my influence behind. It takes time and patience to find them, though.
My father-in-law is a hardworking family man who he often speaks his mind without giving a damn, for which I (sometimes) envy him.
With young children, the experience of a parent’s can-do mentality can be invaluable, even if that parent can’t actually do something well. Children are not always ready for full transparency.
Keeping dads from being seen as the primary caregiver, or default parent, keeps women from being more than just “mom.”