Charlie had to go to the doctor recently, and was not at all pleased about the trip. Our 3 1/2-year-old was in pain and arrived there, with his mom and brother, a hot mess.Bawling on the floor, he cried like he was getting paid in candy for the tears that hit the floor. It was then that his older brother did something incredibly sweet, genuinely helpful and entirely on his own accord. He walked over and started asking Charlie questions about Phineas and Ferb.Phineas and Ferb is something the boys and I watch quite often as it is as entertaining for adults as it is for … [Read more...]
Editor's Note: City Dads Group is proud to occasionally feature writing from members of The Handsome Father, a support community that helps connect, prepare and inspire gay fathers. In this inspirational piece, Craig Peterson writes about his special-needs son, Andrew.From the day I met my adopted son Andrew at age 5, he liked to walk in front. He wanted to lead.Meanwhile, my two younger sons were in no hurry. They liked to walk hand-in-hand with their new father and didn’t want to share me with anyone – including their older brother. But Andrew didn’t mind. He’d be off on his own … [Read more...]
Failure at something is how we learn. We try, we fail, we adjust, make notes, turn a tweak and try again. We may eventually win or we may find something else along the way that takes us in a whole new direction.
+ + +“I’m not good at it,” he said, as if that were reason enough not to try.“What does 'good' have to do with it?” I asked.“I can’t do it.”“You won’t do it,” I corrected. “There’s a difference.”We were standing outside the batting cage with a handful of quarters and helmets that smelled of sweat and disinfectant. I had planned … [Read more...]
Five years ago when I was 40, I came out. It was a rough process, to the say the least. Coming out at that age means dealing with a lot of emotional baggage, especially if you’ve been living a publicly straight life up until then. Coming out at 40 meant not just starting a new chapter in my life, but actually rebooting my life altogether.My biggest goal was to come out responsibly. That meant being sensitive to my family and long-time friends, not all of whom might be comfortable with the idea of Straight Me becoming Gay Me.About three weeks after I came out to the people in my … [Read more...]
Until my own first child was born 12 years ago, fatherhood was just what my dad did, and all I had ever done was take it for granted.My earliest memories are of sitting on a shrinking lap, a slice of jean-covered thigh quickly losing ground between the random growth spurts of a lanky boy and the constant expansion of an ex-smoker’s belly. I sat there for years sharing tickles, snacks and forgotten conversations. There was a montage of facial hair, and I was captivated by its splendor or the sudden lack of it. Everything was long legs and gangly tussles, and I nestled happy in the swell of … [Read more...]