We all want our day in equality court. But I have lived a sheltered life away from the judgment of societal norms, so I had no idea my first experience requiring it would come as stay-at-home dad when I was shunned at the playground … by moms.It was a brisk morning for April in Texas. I arrived at the local playground and felt a sobering chill go down my spine. Per usual, I was putting on an impressive dad-ing display when two, seemingly innocuous, moms approached. My kids jumped out of their skin at the sight of other children to play with and darted to greet them. I helped my children … [Read more...]
I had the pleasure of recently attending the press junket for the movie Gifted about young man unexpectedly into the role of protector and father figure for his math-genius niece. The talent of the film's actors -- Chris Evans, McKenna Grace, Octavia Spencer and Jenny Slate -- is a testament to director Marc Webb's vision and all those that were part of this magical production.Gifted is a heartwarming and heart-wrenching story about Frank (Evans), an uncle raising his 7-year-old niece, Mary (Grace). Frank vows to give her a normal life even though Mary shows extraordinary mathematical … [Read more...]
Prior to becoming a dad, I worried about the effect this new role would have on my relationships – the one with my wife and also with my friends.It didn’t take too long to learn that worrying is as much a part of new parenthood as sleepless nights, dirty diapers and repeatedly singing dull lullabies to soothe the crying baby. Some of these worries are just the result of our own “mental mushrooming” – it’s easy to blow things out of proportion since everything is so new.Then again, some fears are completely valid. Among them are the changes to one’s social life. As scary as it seemed in … [Read more...]
You can help a child in need, in part, by spending more time with your own kid.Fodada, a nonprofit clothing company that uses its revenues to support programs geared toward fostering relationships between father figures and their children, is backing a "fun-raising" initiative that helps fund extracurricular activities.Families choose a child seeking a "scholarship" to pay for music lessons. sports equipment or like; create a fun activity to do with their kids; and then ask others to donate to support their work.The scholarship-seekers have applied through KidScholly, a nonprofit … [Read more...]
Robbie Samuels, co-organizer of our Boston Dads Group, talks about his experience as a transgender dad and his ongoing efforts to network with other parents on the latest edition of the Modern Dads Podcast.
Samuels, a professional speaker, also discusses his appreciation for the adjustments that people and organizations are making to encourage acceptance of all types of parents, trans and otherwise.
I recently lost my mother to Alzheimer’s. The disease made the last few years especially painful, but she lived to age 85 and led a full life. Perhaps the only silver lining was that the disease’s slow progression gave my five siblings and me time to process her death, reflect on her life, and arrange an appropriate memorial service. After some debate, my family elected me to compose and deliver the eulogy. I was honored.Because there were so many of us, we grew up in a noisy family. My mother, who had a way with words, might have said we were “multivocal.” Thus, I thought her eulogy … [Read more...]
Your kid doesn't like vegetables? Try serving her a medley of colorful, cut up veggies in a martini glass topped with a cookie and a little drink umbrella.Making food fun, and letting children have pride and ownership in what they create in the kitchen are among the tips and tricks members of our Twin Cities Dads Group gave a local Minnesota television station on a special cooking segment in March.Watch the whole thing and learn from Chris Brandenburg, John Francis and Keith Nagel (who brought along his two sons, Logan and Sawyer): … [Read more...]
We can't think of a better way to celebrate April as National Poetry Month than by encouraging you to read the work of one of our own City Dads Group members.Ben Berman, a member of our Boston Dads Group, recently had published his second collection of verse. Figuring in the Figure (Able Muse Press) covers many topics in its 88 pages but the final section of the book covers fatherhood, including birthing and baby care classes, the arrival of his child, and those first precious months of life. His work, including the non-parenting poems, is filled with wry humor and familiar scenes like … [Read more...]
It is evening. Townes Van Zandt is playing through a scattering of speakers, each calibrated just right to replicate the scratch of a weary needle upon the endless spin of a tattered record, despite the glow of technology designed to hide just that. The song, whiskey-laden perfection sweetened with melancholy twang, is a digital version played through a popular app on a pricy computer, not an album sleeve in sight. I sold my phonograph over a decade ago, my stack of wax shortly after, and while I have regretted it ever since, I have yet to partake in the vinyl renaissance of modern-day … [Read more...]
How does a man handle being thrust unexpectedly into the role of protector and father figure?That is one of the issues addressed in the movie Gifted, opening in select theaters April 7 and nationwide April 21. Frank Adler (Captain America actor Chris Evans) is a single man, whose attempting to give a "normal" life to his 7-year-old, math-prodigy niece (Mckenna Grace) who he is raising. His plans are threatened by his mother Evelyn (Lindsay Duncan) who wants to separate them and put the girl's skills to work.City Dads Group members sat down with Gifted producer and director Marc … [Read more...]